A Secret Sorrow By Karen Van Der Zee Pdf
The excerpt from the book A Secret Sorrow, by Karen Van Der Zee, explains a woman's challenge of dealing with a permanent internal injury in her love life.
Linda Lockhart ENGLISH 113-500 Mr. Matthew Williams 21 February 2011 How Can Love Never Fail?
Karen Van Der Zee “A Secret Sorrow uses, Characterization, Tone and Irony to show that love is powerful and will heal any hurt. Anyone can say that what you hope for always doesn’t come to past, and then you may lose hope of it ever happening. It is possible to give up and live in despair or even defeat. This is very similar to Karen Van Der Zee, the writer of “A Secret Sorrow portrays in her story. Karen uses the characterization, tone, and irony to show how love is more than a feeling.
The Characterization of “A Secret Sorrow played a significant part of the story. The story was written in 1981, when Faye has a serious car accident and she can not have children as a result of the accident. Daren Van Zee story “Love Beyond Reason” is based on the tone of love in a relationship (write work pg 1). The reference of Faye in a car accident sets the reader up for the tone of the story. The beginning lines of the story states, Faye blood is flowing down her face (pg 31).
Faye felt faint; she needs Kai for support. According to Faye’s doctor she knows now that she can not have children. Faye becomes distant to Kai.
She was afraid to expose the truth about what the doctor have related to her. Karen Van Zee use words to help set the tone of the story (31). The characterization put readers in the mindset of how love can be persistent, patient and never gives up.
The tone of Kai voice was very distinct and collaborating, with intensity. Kai speak in a soft voice, display his gentle ways, even when there’s hot issues at hand (32). The irony of the story happen when the secret Faye keeps from Kai is not what she expects from him. Faye’s voice when talking to Kai is filling with sorrow. Her future with Kai is unknown. Karen Van Zee use first person narrator in the story to give a firsthand message of what happens when you really love someone, and there.Hayley Poteat Victoria Hamilton GS240 Introduction to Literature July 24, 2011 My favorite story is A Secret Sorrow because it really struck a chord with my sense of being a mother, a woman and someone that can be loved for being those things.
Karen van der Zee displays Faye’s emotions in such a raw manner. Faye is a woman, and the God given right of any woman from birth is to bear children, carrying on not only her legacy but that of her husband’s. The fact that Faye has had that ability taken away from her so cruelly is so sad and wrenching. It’s as though all her power as a woman has been stripped from her, her femininity and her use to society in her mind. She has already decided that no one will ever want to marry her, which is clear when they are having the discussion and she says, “I can’t be what you want me to be. We can’t have the kind of life you want.” On the flip side I absolutely love Kai and his response to this news that Faye is forced to break to him. I am warmed that even though he can tell it causes her so much pain to have to tell him whatever it is that has gotten her so upset, he still wants to hear it.
Then when he hears what the news is finally he doesn’t shun her like she thinks he will. He doesn’t make her feel worse by belittling her or by affirming her thoughts and telling her he will never see her again. When he says to her “You know I always wanted children, but what in God’s name makes you think you’re the only.The Secrets We Keep “We all have secrets; we live and breathe them every day.
We may not know what one another's secrets are, but we know they're there.” This quote is from the famous author Gail Saltz, M.D of the book Anatomy of a Secret Life: The Psychology of Living a Lie. Everyone is known to have a private side, which they may reveal to few, if any. According to Merriam Dictionary a secret is defined as “something that is kept hidden or concealed.” On the other hand, the Merriam Dictionary states a secret is “something kept from the knowledge of others or shared only confidentially with a few.” Both definitions state that secrets are supposed to be hidden or concealed, meaning nobody should know anything about the secret.
A Secret Sorrow By Karen Van Der Zee Pdf
The Merriam Dictionary defines secrets to be shared by a few, because it’s human nature to tell the ones we are close to the exciting moments that are happening in our lives. It’s no secret that all of us have secrets, so why do we keep secrets?
It’s in our society to keep secrets from others; we like to hide or conceal those little details from others, because we've deemed them irrelevant. I don’t know where the start of secrets formed but it seems like people have kept secrets since the beginning of time. In Biblical times Adam.There are many differences between 'A Secret Sorrow' and 'A Sorrowful Woman'. One difference is the problems that the two women face.
In 'A Secret Sorrow' Faye deals with a physical problem, the inability to produce children. In 'A Sorrowful Woman' on the other hand the unnamed wife deals with a psychological problem, making it more complex and difficult to fix. Another difference is the role the men play in the stories. Kai, from 'A Secret Sorrow' has a forceful role, he plays the role of the average formula fiction man, he's masculine, strong and tries to save Faye from herself. For instance when Faye told him that he didn't have to be a gentlemen and that it was okay for him to leave her it was interesting when Kai responds with the line 'Shut up and stop playing the martyr'. He refused to allow herself to give into her insecurities and wallow in self pity. Instead readers constantly see Kai picking Faye up and trying to snap her out of this funk she has slipped into.
He spends the entire story trying to force Faye to believe that she is worthy of being loved. The unnamed husband in 'A Sorrowful Woman' is the exact opposite of Kai. The unnamed husband is an enabler, always understanding he does not do anything to help his wife get over her problems. Instead he in a way avoids the issue and allows the woman to succumb to her issue eventually resulting in her downfall. Successful communication requires that the parties listen actively and carefully-asking questions and confirming interpretations to make sure they understand what the other person is meaning. People seldom work this hard at listening, however. Often in conflictual situations, they hardly listen at all Rather, while their opponent is talking, they are busy planning their own response.
This frequently leads to misunderstandings. Secrecy and Deception Sometimes information which is critical to the accurate understanding of a situation is not available to all parties. This frequently occurs in business conflicts, when companies try to keep details about products and processes secret. It also occurs in international conflicts when governments keep secrets for 'security' reasons. This can happen in interpersonal conflicts as well when people simply choose to keep particular facts to themselves. Poor communication also can arise when a party attempts to strengthen its position by deliberately providing opponents and other parties with misleading or inaccurate information.
Inflammatory Statements Sometimes communication can make matters worse rather than better. When communication is threatening, hostile, or inflammatory it can do more to escalate a conflict than it can to defuse it. Inflammatory Media Negative and inflammatory publicity is a problem in conflicts-before, during, and after.Essay- Draft # 1 The Secret in the Texts We all have our secrets- secrets we wish to keep to ourselves and no one else. Sometimes, these secrets are motivated by dark thoughts and hatreds for others. The hatred grows and festers until it swallows us, making it almost impossible to return to our natural normal state. The same idea goes for pain.
What is pain really? Sometimes pain is extreme that we get used to it. The feeling of pain grows and dominates our bodies that we cannot imagine our bodies without pain.
At that point, you cannot tell the difference because you are unsure if you are really feeling pain. These two examples have a common underlying theme- Losing control over our own souls and ideas as a result of something dominating our lives. In the essays, “Our Secrets” and “The Pain Scale”, both Susan Griffin and Eula Bliss use hybrids of memoirs, stories and examples to illustrate the dominance of secrets and pain in ways that they affect us. However, this theme doesn’t only apply to our secrets and pains, but the way in which our education system works and the expectations that society limits us with. Childhood memories are an essential component where most things are learned and practiced. In Griffin’s essay, Heinrich Himmler, a violent cruel leader, grew up to command Nazi rocketry and became the key architect of Jewish genocide.magically attract experiences that bring you joy and fulfillment. Never before has the Law of Attraction been explained so thoroughly, concisely, and beautifully as in 'The Secret.'
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Byres philosophy is that believing will allow you to achieve your wishes and dreams. The main concept of her book was to discuss the secret which is the law of attraction.
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